Making Love With Our Resistance


 I’ve been reframing “problems” into “mysteries,” not necessarily to be solved, but to be explored. The older I get the more mysteries I notice in my body. When I consider something to be a problem, I immediately try to fix it as soon as possible. But mysteries aren’t meant to be fixed. They require patience, […]

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All the Voices Inside My Vagina


It took me ten years to come to terms within myself, let alone share with anyone else, that I had been raped by six of my classmates, some of them my “friends,”  the summer before senior year of high school. It took almost another twenty years to start piecing together memories of  being sexually molested […]

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Meditation Goddess Style


I notice there is a different quality to my meditative experiences as I deepen in my pleasure practice and attune more and more to my feminine essence.I notice that my inner feminine being experiences expansions of consciousness differently than my inner masculine. Expansion within my masculine being feels like an upward and outward opening, like […]

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To Squirt or Not to Squirt? That is Not the Question!


When I looked up pleasure in the dictionary, I realize Mr. Webster and I have very different definitions. Whereas Webster defines pleasure as: satisfaction derived from what is to one’s liking; worldly or frivolous enjoyment; amusement; diversion; sensual gratification-I define pleasure as an expansion of consciousness, experienced through the body and the senses.   I […]

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Ecstatic Embarrassment Syndrome


  I’m currently teaching a women’s sexuality circle, and the morning after the second one, I had both the thought of “Why haven’t I/we been doing this all along?” and “I fully understand why I haven’t led these kinds of circles for years.” Because opening to sexual energy requires nothing less than our complete surrender, […]

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