Sexual Practice is Meditation for our Hormones
Just as we meditate to still the mind, awakening the pleasure body also requires practice. Many women feel intimidated when I ask them about self pleasure. Some confess to not knowing how to give themselves an orgasm-so they don’t see the point of a pleasure practice. Others don’t see the value of feeling their sexual […]
When did our Sexuality get separated from our Innocence?
The more pleasure I feel inside my body, the more magic I experience in the world around me. Pleasure is the muse of magic. When I first moved to Santa Barbara I would run every day on the beach. And for seven days in a row at the same spot on the beach, […]
Meditation Goddess Style
I notice there is a different quality to my meditative experiences as I deepen in my pleasure practice and attune more and more to my feminine essence.I notice that my inner feminine being experiences expansions of consciousness differently than my inner masculine. Expansion within my masculine being feels like an upward and outward opening, like […]
To Squirt or Not to Squirt? That is Not the Question!
When I looked up pleasure in the dictionary, I realize Mr. Webster and I have very different definitions. Whereas Webster defines pleasure as: satisfaction derived from what is to one’s liking; worldly or frivolous enjoyment; amusement; diversion; sensual gratification-I define pleasure as an expansion of consciousness, experienced through the body and the senses. I […]
Ecstatic Embarrassment Syndrome
I’m currently teaching a women’s sexuality circle, and the morning after the second one, I had both the thought of “Why haven’t I/we been doing this all along?” and “I fully understand why I haven’t led these kinds of circles for years.” Because opening to sexual energy requires nothing less than our complete surrender, […]
The Scent of Desire
My vagina and I are beginning to have real conversations. Though I nicknamed her Penelope, yesterday she told me her real name: “She Who Desires.” I remember this name from past research on Mary Magdalene. Among other translations, Magdalene was a title that meant high priestess, or “high tower,” from Magdala, the small town along […]
What Women Don’t Tell Men
Poem excerpt. Post follows. If you want to change the world, love a man in all his instinctual animal nature, in all his hunger and devotion to beauty. Love him beyond your vanity and pridefulness, your gilded possessiveness and need to special- beyond your well thought out conditions for safety and all your concepts of […]
Bring Your Vibrator to Work Day
“According to statistics, the pay gap between men and women – that barometer of shifting power between the sexes – has quietly shrunk to a record low of men earning only 9% more than women, (which granted is still atrocious) and among younger women has shot into reverse. Women in their 20s now earn a […]
My Sexy Nerdy Blow Job Meditation
I consider myself a sexual narcissist. But even though it’s all about me in the bedroom, my unabashed selfishness or selfullness usually ends up serving my lover as well. I may not share my secret narcissistic thoughts and world. Those with lesser egos wouldn’t understand. For example, I believe everything in this dimension is a […]
Oxytocin, Dopamine, and Turning Mundane Tasks into Ecstatic Experiences
As I continue to deepen in my pleasure practice, my receptivity deepens. I don’t just hear the birds with my ears, I feel the vibrations of their songs buzzing beneath my skin. I don’t just smell the orange blossoms with my nose, I experience all of my cells expanding, breathing in their fragrance. I don’t […]
