Meditation Goddess Style
I notice there is a different quality to my meditative experiences as I deepen in my pleasure practice and attune more and more to my feminine essence.I notice that my inner feminine being experiences expansions of consciousness differently than my inner masculine. Expansion within my masculine being feels like an upward and outward opening, like […]
To Squirt or Not to Squirt? That is Not the Question!
When I looked up pleasure in the dictionary, I realize Mr. Webster and I have very different definitions. Whereas Webster defines pleasure as: satisfaction derived from what is to one’s liking; worldly or frivolous enjoyment; amusement; diversion; sensual gratification-I define pleasure as an expansion of consciousness, experienced through the body and the senses. I […]
Pleasure as a New Spiritual Path
“I want to make Tantra yoga as main stream as Hatha yoga, and orgasms as much a part of women’s self care as brushing our teeth,” I bravely declared ten years ago in a community circle, where we were each asked to share our personal mission. The tent went silent, followed by laughter. I […]
Ecstatic Embarrassment Syndrome
I’m currently teaching a women’s sexuality circle, and the morning after the second one, I had both the thought of “Why haven’t I/we been doing this all along?” and “I fully understand why I haven’t led these kinds of circles for years.” Because opening to sexual energy requires nothing less than our complete surrender, […]
The Scent of Desire
My vagina and I are beginning to have real conversations. Though I nicknamed her Penelope, yesterday she told me her real name: “She Who Desires.” I remember this name from past research on Mary Magdalene. Among other translations, Magdalene was a title that meant high priestess, or “high tower,” from Magdala, the small town along […]
The Secret to Even Better Orgasms
I’ve been teased about being obsessed with my vagina. A friend of mine once told me at a party that before introducing his date to me, he whispered in her ear, “Watch, she’s going to be talking about her vagina.” And as predicted, I was! I’ve attended many vagina-related workshops, where I was instructed to […]
Nothing is sexier than vulnerability
What makes new relationships so sense-sational is we get to be vulnerable all over again. We meet in the field of not knowing—one mystery to another—and feel the flutter of our simultaneous fear and curiosity. We risk reaching out further and exposing our heart’s deepest desire. We behold the divine masculine and feminine in flesh […]
What Women Don’t Tell Men
Poem excerpt. Post follows. If you want to change the world, love a man in all his instinctual animal nature, in all his hunger and devotion to beauty. Love him beyond your vanity and pridefulness, your gilded possessiveness and need to special- beyond your well thought out conditions for safety and all your concepts of […]
A New Word that Lit Me on Fire. Yes, I’m sharing!
This weekend at the Lucidity Festival, the Goddess spoke to me in the form of a beautiful black man with long gray dread locks named Astarius Miraculii. He poetically articulated my whole ideology around feminine pleasure and sex magic practices in a single word. I am so incredibly turned on by this word, so lit […]
Desire as an Antidote for Depression
I’ve struggled on and off with depression for most of my adult life, trying to relieve it with everything from positive thinking, to changing my diet, to exercise, to medication. Some might say that I’m a serial depressionist. I go down, sometimes deeper and for longer periods than others, but thankfully always manage to find […]
