Sexual Secret Agents: Calling all Women in Texas (and everywhere else)
Today in my pleasure practice, I imagined squatting on the whole state of Texas. ‘Cause that’s what the Goddess does when she sees a big dick swinging itself around, knocking down half of the state-supported family planning clinics and cutting off birth control subsidies by two thirds – $74 million dollars over two years. […]
A Deeper Conversation about Women Aging: Looking in the Mirror that Matters Most
I recently read Judith Newman’s interview of Annabelle Gurwitch in The New York Times article “We’re not getting better. We’re getting older.” I agree with some of Gurwitch’s points regarding women embracing our age. I, too, have abhorred the phrase “50 is the new 40,” which still implies that youth is better. But there are […]
Bring Your Vibrator to Work Day
“According to statistics, the pay gap between men and women – that barometer of shifting power between the sexes – has quietly shrunk to a record low of men earning only 9% more than women, (which granted is still atrocious) and among younger women has shot into reverse. Women in their 20s now earn a […]
20 Women, Ancient Sexual Practices, My (Modern) Home.
A vision of mine was seeded on the first day of spring when twenty plus women gathered in my home to do sexual practices together as we once did in Goddess temples long ago. I could feel all of our lineages standing behind us, holding the circle. The container was strong, the energy potent. There […]
My Sexy Nerdy Blow Job Meditation
I consider myself a sexual narcissist. But even though it’s all about me in the bedroom, my unabashed selfishness or selfullness usually ends up serving my lover as well. I may not share my secret narcissistic thoughts and world. Those with lesser egos wouldn’t understand. For example, I believe everything in this dimension is a […]
Oxytocin, Dopamine, and Turning Mundane Tasks into Ecstatic Experiences
As I continue to deepen in my pleasure practice, my receptivity deepens. I don’t just hear the birds with my ears, I feel the vibrations of their songs buzzing beneath my skin. I don’t just smell the orange blossoms with my nose, I experience all of my cells expanding, breathing in their fragrance. I don’t […]
The Darker Side of Pleasure and Light from Unexpected Places
I have a similar relationship with sexual energy as I do with God. It’s been both my closest companion, my most feared enemy and my greatest mystery. In spite of my fears, I have faith in sexual energy to heal myself and the world the same way nuns have faith in the Virgin Mary. I’ve […]
Where is pleasure on your list?
I recently reconnected over the phone with an old girlfriend from high school. When I told her about my pleasure practice, she laughed and said, “I’ve got a full time job, a husband and teenagers-I don’t have time for pleasure!” Beneath the sarcasm, I could hear the judgment in her voice. Or maybe it was […]
Following Crazy Desire at Whole Foods
Sometimes I get these wild little ideas, like yesterday, when I hear this voice inside daring me to not wear anything under my dress to the grocery store. Not that I’ve never gone out pantiless. I’ve done many bare bottom dinners with boyfriends over the years. But what makes this different than other pantyless adventures is […]
Get Your Sufi On!
Sexual energy is creative energy. As I pleasure myself daily, my inner sufi comes out to play. Here is a new poem: Who cares how many fish are in the sea. I just want to swim in the clear blue water. Feel the grace of my own body as it butterflies out past the waves, remembering […]
