On Censorship, Double-Agentry and Opening the Floodgates to Pleasure of Every Flavor
Today must be censorship day. Even though I read every blog to my man before posting, and he obviously shares in at least half of the experiences, when he browses through them all again on his own, he feels hurt. He wants me to talk more about the pleasure he gives me, how happy I […]
Why Women Don’t Share Our Fantasies With Men is the Reason I’m Sharing Mine. Right Now…
There’s so much sensitivity, shame and fear around sexual energy; it’s no wonder we have a hard time being honest with ourselves, let alone others. I believe that vulnerably sharing is the way to untangle the big ball of truth and lies and wounds and gifts that make up sexual energy. Honesty is uncomfortable, but it’s […]
Desire’s Dark Secret: How to Feel Desirable Any Time You Want
Because I was introduced to sexual energy (through being molested by a relative) at a very young age, sex has been a driving force in my life, and a close companion, right along side of death and doubt. After decades of being ruled by it, often violated and nearly destroyed by it, I’ve spent the […]
Pleasure Begets Pleasure
Dancing never fails to wake up my pleasure body. Even when I’m feeling tired and resistant, if I can just put on some music, move and breathe, something starts to happen inside of me. The breath always opens the door to the dance. I breathe in, invoking my feminine receptivity, allowing the music to penetrate […]
Sex Sets My Black Birds Free
Sundays always bring out the priestess in me. This morning I’m contemplating the verse in revelations, where the prostitute is riding the beast. Here’s my biblical reframe: What if the prostitute is not a woman who gives into temptation and unworthiness, but one whose love and courage is great enough to tame the beast of […]
Pleasure isn’t necessarily politically correct
Polarity isn’t always something that comes naturally. But if we want to stay attracted and attractive to our lovers, if we want to continue building sexual tension and chemistry, healthy polarity is a requirement and an art that takes practice. I don’t need to be loved in my romantic relationships. I love myself enough. What […]
I See Sex as an Advanced Tonglen Practice
I feel most sexually met in nature. I love being licked and lapped up by the ocean . I love spreading my legs open and riding rays of sunlight. I love when the wind’s force tosses me around like puppet on its string. When you’ve been taken by the wind, the sun and the ocean, […]
Only Offering Can Quench Longing’s Thirst
What if you knew you would never be met by your lover in the way your heart most desires? Or any lover for that matter? Would you feel depressed? Or strangely liberated? Would you pretend not to know? Would you keep trying to get rid of or rise above the sadness? In some ways I […]
There are as Many Different Kinds of Sexy as there are Galaxies
At the sexual intimacy workshop this weekend, the women learned how to play with heavier emotional states through dance. We came up with character names for our dances. For example, shame might be danced as a subterranean seductress or sadness might be danced as a longing mermaid. Although we had fun summoning our inner warrioresses […]
Pleasure is the Portal to the Feminine Soul
After a full moon sexual intimacy workshop this weekend, during which I also had my moon, this morning I am feeling particularly ravenous. I hunger to be penetrated. I hunger for cock. Not just my man’s, but all of the men’s cocks in the workshop. When I tell my man this, he is both triggered […]
